Why “hard work” on the relationship isn’t always the answer.
Why “low mood therapy” is destined for failure and how “high mood relating” makes the difference.
How to move beyond emotions and take action!
How to find the North Star of your relationship, and why it matters.
Why true intimacy is a lot closer than you think--and how to get there!
What the TIE Elements of Communication are, and how they can transform your communication.
How to change the momentum of a relationship, sometimes instantaneously!
What the Practices of Marriage are, and how they can transform your relationship.
Why arguing is a waste of time--and the amazingly simple secret to get around it.
How to become a team, even if you feel like opposites.
Why power is so destructive to relationships and how to change it.
How to deal with problems involving sex or money.
How to make paradigm shifts (literally, quantum leaps!) in the relationship.
Much, much more about how to transform your relationship.
Introduction
Chapter 1
Why Traditional Couple Therapy Fails
The Faulty Assumption
An Example
The Doomed Idea
If Not Couple Therapy, Then What?
Chapter 2
Moving From You & Me To WE
Controlled/Controlling
Under/Overfunctioning
Power Struggles
An Exercise
The Physics of Relating
An Exercise
Chapter 3
Recipe of a Successful Marriage
Accurate Perception
Clear Communication
Right Action
The Interplay
Pulling It Together
An Exercise
Exercise: Me, You, WE
Chapter 4
Finding The North Star Of Your Relationship
False North Stars
Finding A True North Star
An Exercise
Chapter 5
3 Simple Secrets to a Successful Marriage
Secret #1
Secret #2
Secret #3
Chapter 6
Create an Upward Cycle
Shifting Momentum
An Instant Shift
An Exercise
Chapter 7
Don’t Ask Yourself Whether You Are Still In Love
Why Not Emotions?
“So, What Should I Do?”
An ExerciseWhen the Emotions are Missing
Reconnecting With The Emotions
An Exercise
Chapter 8
When Emotions Are Amiss
Intimacy & Abandonment
Between The Fears
Dealing With The Mix
Understanding Anger
An Exercise
Chapter 9
We All Have A Paradigm
So What’s the Tie-In?
The Paradigm Problem
A Paradigm of People’s Paradigms
An Exercise
Escaping the Paradigm Trap
We Are All Doing The Best We Can!
We All Operate From Our Own Perspectives
Doing TO You vs. Doing FOR Themselves
What This Doesn’t Mean
Chapter 10
Boundaries: Where You Begin and End
Boundaries and Standards
Setting Boundaries in the Relationship
Why Boundaries Are Important For You
Boundaries and Standards Exercise
Boundaries Of The Relationship
Chapter 11
The Practices of Marriage
Practice #1
Practice #2
Practice #3
Chapter 12
The Path to Intimacy
Stage #1
Stage #2
Stage #3
Stage #4
Chapter 13
High Mood Relating
Focus on Options
Chapter 14
Living a Relationship In the Present
Chapter 15
Sex Is About WE
The Reality of Sexual Issues in Marriage
The Energy of Sexuality
A Different Approach
Chapter 16
Money, Power & WE
Freedom Versus Security
The Role of Money in a Couple’s Life
An Alternative View
Keys To A New Perspective
An Exercise
Chapter 17
Don’t Just Grow; EVOLVE!
The Current View of Relationships
A Paradigm View of Relationships
Epilogue
Where Do I Go From Here?
Relationship Coaching
Save the Marriage Teleclasses
Books and Resources
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